When we start out we have a very innocent outlook on life. Our vision of adulthood is seen through rose tinted glasses with freedom, money and the happy ever after in the forethought of our mind.

When we are young we cant even comprehend how quickly life passes us by. Twenty five year olds are ancient, teachers have lived for ever and as for a grand parents we cant ever imagine being that old.

As the years go by we soon realise that twelve months becomes shorter and shorter, no sooner does the summer start then its back to winter, Christmas and the cycle starts over again. Once you hit thirty those years just fly by, you get older quicker and quicker and you soon realise that life isnt everlasting. We are visitors on this planet for but a short period of time and if you keep on looking for that miracle way, way in the future you will miss the best part of your life.

Realising how little time we have, puts a whole new perspective on life and makes you realise how precious life is.

Now if you consider your relationship, do you really want to waste the best years of your life on failed relationships, one parent lifestyles and lonely nights? Save your marriage before it's too late!

Historically we didnt really have a choice. I always remember my Gran. She didnt have any real enjoyment in life, she just lived to serve her first husband and, once he died, her second. There was no give and take in either relationship neither husband believed she should have any enjoyment in life, in their eyes her sole aim in life was to wait on them hand and foot and just work like a slave. There was no decision to be made as to whether or not she wanted to save her marriage, marriage was for life.

I worked with a guy once who believed that women should be no more than secretaries, if they worked at all, and that whenever he went home be it morning, lunch or night his meal should be ready and waiting!!

Of course, times have changed, although that last example wasnt so long ago, and it is widely accepted that we no longer have to remain in relationships that are not working or if we dont feel like it.

Marriage is no longer sacred to be clung on to no matter what but the disappointing change is that things have gone too far the other way with people giving up on relationships without a fight.

I think the lesson we need to learn is that marriage is sacred but not at any cost. Life is very short and the grass is rarely greener on the other side. Always appreciate what you have got rather than setting your sites on a fairy tale.

Marriage is a two way street, its all about give and take. Marriage is a changing target, like life, it is continually evolving and the ground rules keep changing but that doesnt mean that you cant learn to change with it.

If you imagine the workplace the flexible workers, those who are prepared to learn and adapt to new processes and new ways of working are usually the ones who are successful.

Marriage is the same. The most successful marriages are where partners learn to accept that times change, life doesnt stand still and if you want to get the best out of your relationship you need to adapt and move with the times.

Don't wait, if you believe your relationship is worth saving, act now and save your marriage.